A Heartbreaking Trip
One Monday, I went for a trip to Indonesia with my relatives. No, it wasn’t for a short holiday..
How I really wished it was.. I went there for a mission. A mission to bring a body back home.
Back home to where all his loved ones are. Here, where he’s supposed to be. Where I can visit him.
I was at my boyfriend, J’s house right after a birthday dinner celebration with his family.
I can still remember the time.. It was 22:28pm on 24th May 2009 when I received that fateful call.
It was my brother and he said, “Did aunt call you?” I bluntly said no and asked him why.
Right there and then he told me a shocking news that was hard for me to register.
He let out,”Dad’s gone.” I couldn’t believe it at first. I actually thought it was a joke.
After hanging up the call, I told J about it as I cried uncontrollably.
All eyes were immediately locked on me and he tried to calm me down.
Everybody was shocked and his mom advised me to calm down.
I managed to calm down after awhile and we immediately took off to my aunt’s place.
I met up with my brother and relatives over there and we sat for a small talk.
My aunt explained to us on how she got the news from my my dad’s friend and that she tried to
call my dad’s family over there for a few hours but nobody was answering the phone.
Finally after the longest wait ever, we got hold of his wife, M. She told us about wat happened during his last moments,
refused to give her address and deny our plea to bring back his body. So many calls were made that day.
We called Singapore Casket and spoke to a person. We were told that once we get all the documents he wanted,
we should fax to him and he’ll arrange the rest for us because until then we do not have the legal rights to bring him back home.
That night, we all unanimously decided to book the first ticket out the next morning and M has also agreed to send someone
to fetch us upon reaching and to lead the way to their house.
I couldn’t sleep well that night. I kept thinking about it, about him. I felt so miserable.
I thought about what he could have been doing at that moment, about the last time we spoke and the last time we met.
I was so devastated and so remorseful. There were so many things I should and shouldn’t have done.
That night, I prayed to God. I prayed for Him to fulfill my wish to bring his body home, hope for no obstacles and for a safe journey………
June 8th, 2009 at 10:18 pm
Sister I am sorry for the news k. Hope you all are doing well. God is with you!
June 8th, 2009 at 10:29 pm
My condolences…may God grant what you have wished for.
June 9th, 2009 at 1:55 am
Dear Cashmere
Please accept my most sincere condolences, be brave and strong.
Our thoughts are with you at this time.
Take good care of yourself.
JH
http://www.photojournalist-tgh.tv
June 10th, 2009 at 2:25 pm
oh gosh, i am so sorry to hear about it.
why did he refused to have give the address?
there seemed to be some complication underneath it all?
there there, do take care of your family n yourself
especially during these critical moments.
*hugs*
June 11th, 2009 at 9:07 am
I’m so sorry to hear that you lost your father. I hope you’re doing okay. I’ll keep you in my thoughts, take care.
June 11th, 2009 at 10:57 pm
Sorry to hear about this. I hope everything went well with the all the arrangements. I’m sure you’ll get through this – stay strong : )
June 15th, 2009 at 5:29 am
Please accept my condolences.So sorry for you I’ll be praying for you and your family.
June 16th, 2009 at 1:07 am
Cashmere, please accept my condolences for your loss. If you want to have a chat let us know as we are in the same city.
Please be strong.
-Rad and Marcus
June 16th, 2009 at 3:06 am
Cashmere, i am so terribly sorry about your loss. My heart goes out to you *hugs*
June 16th, 2009 at 7:38 am
this is heart wrenching news, my deepest condolences. may your father’s soul rest in peace.
June 19th, 2009 at 1:25 am
my condolences and prayers to you and ur family hugs*
June 19th, 2009 at 11:07 pm
My prayers are with you and your family Cashmere. May you be well and continue what’s ahead and be stronger. Hope your wish will be granted
June 21st, 2009 at 12:01 am
I’m so sorry for your loss and hope you and your other family members are able to take care of things. I know the pain of loss, my Mother just died little over a month ago; though we didn’t have the red tape to deal with it is still very hard.
I started my travel blog when she was so sick in the hospital, as I needed a diversion, something else to think about, something new, and something that brought back better times. Perhaps you spending time there, looking around at the pictures etc. will give you some rest too.
On my regular blog, http://4ccccs.blogspot.com/ I’ve been posting memories in alphabet form. You might enjoy those stories; also again focusing on the good memories. You might want to do the same thing. I’ve found writing about those good memories very helpful and healing.
My best to you and your family. You’ll be in my thoughts.
Sandy
June 21st, 2009 at 11:28 am
Hi Cashmere, hope you are doing great today. Cheer – up and face the world with a brave heart ….
May God Almighty lift the burdens you have
June 22nd, 2009 at 11:44 pm
Hi Cashmere, I hope everything is well with you. Take care : )
June 23rd, 2009 at 10:36 am
how are you doing now?
do hang in there!
we may not be able to help much,
but to emotionally support you, we are more than willing to. =)
June 24th, 2009 at 2:28 am
Thanks so much guys for all your concern..
It’s been almost a month.. It’s hard to accept but i’m coping..
I think I’m doing ok now..
Thanks a lot..
June 24th, 2009 at 8:32 am
this must be a hard hit. i understand this feeling. i had a kouhai (junior) died from drowning. and on that very day, i saw him across from where i am happily entering the car with his friends and his gf was there to see him off. and the next day, we all found out he died from drowning. students who know and don’t know him were so sad upon his death. i also shed some tears and chanted for his happiness in his next life time.
be strong.
June 26th, 2009 at 6:28 pm
Hello Cashmere,
We’re so sorry to hear about your lost. It’s always difficult to lose a love one. It does always help to focus on the positive and loving memories you had with your father. As heartbreaking as it is, we know your father will want you to think of those moments, too.
Take care and be strong. We’re sending a great big hug your way.
Many Blessings….
Roxanne and Hugo
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